Just Say No...Or Don't...Or Whatever...
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Do you ever find it hard to say no?
Does it depend on the circumstances? Explain.
Have you ever found yourself agreeing to something you really didn't want to do? Why do you think you did or didn't?
Under what circumstances is it easy to talk you into something? Under what circumstances is it impossible to do so?
Do you ever find it hard to say no?
Does it depend on the circumstances? Explain.
Have you ever found yourself agreeing to something you really didn't want to do? Why do you think you did or didn't?
Under what circumstances is it easy to talk you into something? Under what circumstances is it impossible to do so?
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ReplyDeleteI do still find it hard to say no. For especially a girl like me who’s often struggled with speaking her mind, I often find myself going along with people’s ideas. I usually go along with doing things depending on the situation because I don’t want to disappoint them, be judged, or say what I think and have my ideas dismissed (all of which I’ve gotten better at not doing). It’s not all bad, however, because as I said, it depends. For example, before Friday’s prom, I was set that I was not going to dance at all (the DJ honestly sucked though lol). I’ve never been to a single school dance until prom happened, and the only type of dancing events I’ve previously ever been to were Congolese weddings (and even then I barely danced!). Then, Arianna convinced me to after I was saying no: “Oh come on, Bernice!!! Girl, you might as well!! It’s prom!!” The next thing I knew, I found myself turning up to Drake’s “God’s Plan” (still can’t believe I did that publicly lol!). See in this case, not saying no was a risk worth taking. I decided to do so, and I ended up having fun. Basically, I only agreed to do it because of the validation that I was with my friends and I should make the most out of my last prom with some songs I liked while looking good in a dark room (haha!). I also mainly said yes to dancing at prom because I did not want anymore regrets before graduation.
ReplyDeleteSince I think about things a lot, when someone really wants me to do something, I immediately think about what could happen from doing what they say. If I think the outcome would be a smart, good, beneficial decision to me, I would do it. I don’t say yes to really bad, dumb decisions (you know, some of the crazy stuff people do). The way where not saying no would be a bad decision for me is when I follow a choice that I know could have been better if I did it my way. However, sometimes I don’t really have a choice but to do it, which ties into this happening mostly because of me not speaking my mind as I mentioned. An example of this is several group projects I hated in the past where I knew whoever I was working with was doing something I didn’t like, but I went along with it anyways because they were more vocal and I needed the good grade. Don’t get me wrong; sometimes you have to listen to what some people tell you. However, it could be better if you realize what you need and what else you can contribute.
These experiences taught me how much I need to be true to myself. I realised that I have to stop overthinking and follow my heart (as cliché as that might sound). It’s easier said than done, but I’m getting there.
I usually don't find it hard to say no, but it depends on the circumstance. For example, when me and reec go out to eat, I rarely say no to going to a place even if I don't really want to go. I do this because I know it will make him happy if we go somewhere that he really likes.
ReplyDeleteI agree to things I don't want to do because I know it will make the other person happy. My mom always asks me to do things I don't want to do like take my sister somewhere or do the dishes but I do it anyway because I know it will make her happy and feel less busy.
It is easy to talk me into something if I trust the person. This is because if I trust the person, I know that they would never make me do something that could end up hurting me in any way. Reec kind of talked me into shooting a gun for the first time. I have never wanted to shoot a gun, but he helped me get over that and pretty much talked me into trying it. If anyone else tried talking me into it, I would have said no because I would not have the same level of trust for them. When someone I don't trust tries talking me into something I don't want to do, it is impossible to convince me to do it.
For the most part no one can make me do something I don’t want to do. I don’t really care enough what people think to let it effect my decisions. Although i do have a hard time saying no to people when they ask me for stuff. I guess you could say i have a big heart. I always feel for people even when i don’t want to so its very hard for me to not help someone out if they need it. This is the worst when people who have done me wrong come back and ask for things. I usually say yes because I don’t like to let shitty people change my character.
ReplyDeleteI usually don't have a hard time saying no. When I genuinely don't want to do something, I will say no without any hesitation. I will never lead someone or something on. I don't think twice about doing something that I don't want to do, and I will never feel bad about saying no. However, when it comes to, lets say, doing the dishes or doing a favor for someone, I sometimes struggle with saying no, only because of guilt. I'd be lying if I said I wanted to do the dishes everytime I'm asked, but saying no would be rude, so I always say yes.
ReplyDeleteIn a serious sense, I've never agreed to something that I didn't want to do. Serious as in something that would harm or affect me or someone else in any way. As far as making plans or going out to eat or doing an assignment, I have agreed to doing things when I didn't want to. For example, going to the movies to see a movie that I'm not really interested in.
In regards to talking me into doing something, it's easy when I know I'll be helping a person on the other end. For instance, I really don't love going to volunteer at the hospital every Thursday, and I often find myself planning to skip, but knowing that I'm helping someone is motivation to doing it. It's impossible to talk me into doing something when it has the chance of putting myself or others around me in danger. Under no circumstances will I ever do something that someone wants me to do if there's a chance I will walk away harmed or in trouble.
I am a nice person I think and there are people out there who would try to take advantage of me being a nice person. I never like to disappoint someone, or a lot of times I feel like if I say no if someone ask me to do something for them. I feel like they would not want to be my friend or be around me because I said no. For me for the most part it is always hard to say no so I would try to come up with an excuse. To not make it seem as bad because I know people don’t like to hear no and sometimes I want to say it but I don’t want to say it either. Like is someone who I know asked me could you help and go get this for me. If I don’t want to I would try to ask them if there is anyone else that could do it, and they would say that I am the only one that could do this for them. I would say it would depend on the circumstances on the person, like if me and that person are on bad terms at the moment it may be a bit easier for me to say no. But at the same time I may feel bad because even though I may be on bad terms with a person there is still a part of me that wants to helps them . Even though I may not want or just can’t due to what that person may have done to me. I have found myself in situations where I have agreed to things I didn’t want to do but I did it anyways to satisfy the other person. This person they knew how hard it was for me to say no to some things so they would always somehow end up getting me to do things that I didn't really want to do. It’s not really easy to get me to do anything but if that person were to stay consistent then then eventually I would give in. For me to go through all the stuff I went through I would have that I find it more easy to say no just because I have gotten fed up with what some people had to say. Even for the people who may I have known me last year that would say I was a different person cause when it comes to asking me something. You want an honest opinion It may be brutally honest.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to saying no, I would say that it depends on who’s asking and what the situation is. When someone I trust and care about asks me to do something I will most likely do it because I hope they would do the favor if I asked them. Obviously if they asked me to kill someone or do something illegal it would be a no go but if they were to ask me for a ride or money I would do it. The problem is when my brother asks for gas money and I don’t want to give him any I still say yes. Whenever I tell my family or friends no I feel like a dickhead. I feel like I’m letting them down in some way. When it comes to people I don’t know or don’t like asking me for favors, I tend to say no more often. The only thing I usually say yes to is when someone asks for a pen and I know I most likely won’t get it back. Other than that I can’t say yes to a stranger. A reason why saying yes too much is a bad thing is because it can get you into a bad situation. If you know someone that does some questionable things and they keep asking you for help and you keep saying yes, that can get you in trouble too. Sometimes no is the best thing to say even though it’s hard. If you say yes too much people can take advantage of you. People will look at you as a yes man if you never say no and that could end up with people walking all over you. Sometimes I agree with the popular majority even though I disagree so I don’t look stupid. I worry that if I have a different opinion than someone they will freak out and call me stupid. If you wanted to talk me into doing something, the best way to do that is to say that I would have fun. Most of the time I’m stuck at home so if you come to me and asked me if I wanted to go somewhere that I wouldn’t normally go to and you tell me it’ll be a fun new experience I would put more thought into it and maybe say yes. Something that I would never agree to is doing something illegal. If you ask me to do something that could get me in jail then I’m done talking to you. I wouldn’t risk time in jail for anyone even if they are my closest friends. If my friends asked me to do something illegal then they aren’t a true friend. Sometimes no is the way to go.
ReplyDeleteTypically, I don't find it hard to say no. I believe that you should voice your feelings honestly, and if you don't want to do something then it is important that you say so. However, there are times where I do find myself responding in ways that don't reflect how I truly feel. So it does depend on the circumstances. Like what most people have said, if I am told to do the dishes or complete a chore, odds are I wont say no, no matter how bad I want to. This is because even though I know I don't want to, I know that it is the right thing to do. Similarly, sometimes I go places or do stuff that I don't really want to do. This could be anything ranging from the mall, going out to dinner, completing a hard task, or going to the gym. Im sometimes in a situation where I force myself to do these things because I know life is short. I always remind myself to live life and make memories, and I know that in the end I won't regret it. I consider myself a pretty stubborn person, so it's not very easy to talk me into things. However, if someone is successful in doing this, it is usually under a circumstance that involves food. I've realized that it is impossible for someone to talk me into something that has to do with my personal feelings and safety. I will never put myself in great danger, and this is where I will say no.
ReplyDeleteThere are not many things I will say no to. I usually like helping people out, or doing things that are fun and adventurous. But of course, the word no has to be used in a lot of instances. Hypothetically speaking, if someone wanted to bring beer or open alcohol in my car, I will say no. Especially if the person who has it is 18. I feel bad sometimes when I say no though. If i need to be home early and someone asks for a ride home, i will say no. I feel bad doing that because that person now has to keep looking for a way home. I think everyone in this world has peer pressure around them. There have been times when I have not been down to do something and I will go along with it just because all of the others are doing it. Even if its really stupid. Has it gotten me in trouble before, yes. It is a bad situation for me when I am put in situations like that because everyone is expecting you to say yes so you cannot disappoint. Which I can hopefully change later on. And just go with a no. I am a pretty easy person to convince. When certain things are involved. But when the situation is trouble and has nothing to do to help me or affect me the answer will always be no. My safety is never gonna be tested over something that has nothing to do with me. But I can be convinced if it is something that can benefit me and the people around me. I surround myself with people I am comfortable with so I don't put myself in situations where I have to say no. But of course there are still a lot of things I say no to.
ReplyDeleteI don’t really find it hard to say no. If I don’t want to do something it’s a simple no. That’s why I never dealt with peer pressure. I’m very strong in my beliefs and my standards that it’s hard to get me to do anything contrary to those things. That’s one thing that I love about myself because I often been around people who are so easily influenced and I see where is has got them. It’s very important to me to make decisions based upon my feelings and not anyone else's. On the flip side of that, when it pertains to doing something for someone I do have a huge heart. My first instinct is to go out of my way for people, trust people, and be there for them. That makes it hard for me at times when I really want to say no if someone needs me but my love for them makes it hard. Honestly, I don’t think it’s a bad way to be because you should make sacrifices for the ones you love at times so I never looked at it as a bad way of being. I don’t remember a time when I did something that I didn’t want to do because that’s just not the way I am. The only circumstance that it’s easy for someone to talk me into doing something is if it’s a serious situation or if I already am leaning towards a yes. Other than that it’s a no for me.
ReplyDeleteI almost never find it hard to say no and because of this, peer pressure doesn't really effect me. But like most things, it really depends on the Situation. For example, If I know that doing something that was asked of me that I don't want to do will make someone happy, I will give in. I do this because I know it will make that person happy and the trust between me and that person will grow. For instance if my mom or dad had a really hard day, I would never say no to them if they asked me to do a favor. Its easy to talk people into things if the person uses empathy, and i am no exception. But other than that scenario, its a no.
ReplyDeleteSaying no is something that we all have to learn to do sometimes even though we may really not want to do it. Of course I find it hard to say no sometimes and I’m sure we have all had a moment in our life when this was in fact the case. Saying no or yes for me will always depend on the circumstances, situation, and the person asking. Like when a friend or family member needs a favor my answer is basically yes every time because I want them to know that I’m always going to be there for them and that they can always count on me. The only time I’d say no is if they were asking me to do something bad or that I wasn’t available at that time or place. But other than that I’m always there to help when I’m available. When it comes to strangers or acquaintances that ask for something more thought goes into my answer of yes or no. I always have to think about if I’m being used or what their real intentions are with the favor they need. But if the person has always been nice to me and they ask for a sincere favor of course I would say yes and help them as best as I could. If someone is an asshole to me or only comes to me only when they need something then I’m going to say no because I don’t deal with that shit.
ReplyDeleteYes I have found myself agreeing to things that I didn’t want to do before and I again think most of us have done this. Sometimes you get peer pressured into doing things that maybe you don’t want to do but you think you’ll be viewed in a different way if you don’t do them. Now I haven’t been peer pressured to do any illegal or bad things because those are things that peer pressure can’t change my mind about, but I have definitely been pressured to go somewhere or do something just because everyone else was going and they wanted me to come even though I didn’t want to. Like everybody is always like “Yo Lou come to my party” and I never go because I’m just not a party guy. People are always trying to get me to do stuff I don’t want to do and I usually only get convinced if it’s a close friend or family member asking me and it depends on what’s being asked. I’m a person who always thinks before I say, act, or do whatever. I think about what my actions or words could do to myself and the people around me before I do or say them. This has kept me out of a lot of conflict, drama, and bad activities that could of made me a person that I didn’t want to be.
It’s easy to convince me to do something when it involves doing something fun that’ll make me happy, helping others when I know they really need help, or anything else that I know will have a good outcome. Basically you can convince me to do something if you show me there is a purpose of doing it. It’s impossible to convince me when I know that it will lead to something bad and when I can’t see the good in it. It’s hard to explain but I think you know what I’m getting at. When it comes to saying yes or no there is always deep thought before I make a decision and I usually make the right one.
Sometimes, it’s hard to just say no, even if you know it’s bad. For me, depending on the situation, my curiousity will sometimes get the best of me. And when it doesn’t, I always feel there’s going to be some sort of bad consequence that comes back to bite me in my butt because I wasn’t helping out another person with their situation. I’m a generous guy and I try everyday not to be a pushover. But if I know someone needs help and they ask for me to help them, I’m not going to say no. It’s just not apart of my nature. Even if that person doesn’t necessarily like me. Certain circumstances will of course prevent me from saying no, but those are rare ocassions. When people do ask me to do stuff, it’s usually never anything bad, so I’m thankful to have never been in a situation like that. The closest I’ve come to not doing something I didn’t like is playing Fortnite with people I don’t interact with in person. And finally, do I believe it’s easy for people to talk me into things? No. Because when I do do something, I usually get something out of it. Thinking about it now, if I don’t do something, it’s because I’m not getting anything out of it.
ReplyDeleteFor me it depends on the situation. For example, there are times where someone older than I am/my superior (like a coach or one of my bosses) asks me to do something and I want to say no but because they’re my elder and I respect them, I’ll keep my mouth shut and just do it. And then there are other times when people my age, a year or two younger or even a year or two over ask me to do something and I’ll flat out say no simply because I don’t want to do it. It also depends on the person too. If it’s someone I kind of know or don’t know, I’ll want to be nice and not give a bad (don’t know if that’s the right word) impression so I’ll just do it. If it’s someone I know or I know well, I will say no. It’s usually something that they don’t want to do that’s assigned to them and just want to pass off and that’s when I put my foot down. It was given to you so it’s YOUR responsibility, not mine.
ReplyDeleteYes, many times. The one I remember the most is when my cousins were going to the Hammonton fair and I couldn’t, but they persuaded my mom to let me go even though I didn’t really want to. But because I wanted to fit in and feel like I was part of the family, I just went along with it. On the way there, I tried to psych myself into thinking I was going to have a good time and that it was going to be okay. As soon as my aunt dropped us off, I regretted going. I wanted to go back home the whole time, 3/5 of my cousins end up leaving me for boys, I had a horrible time.
If it’s my coach(es), my boss, my parents, or my friends, I’ll usually give in and do what they ask/tell me to do. For example, at the beginning of the season my coaches put me as stroke seat (the very first seat) for the V4 and I did not like it at all. After talking to them after 3 horrible practices in a row, my coaches persuaded me to just keep going and that after the race they’ll switch the lineup. I ended up stroking the double, another idea that I didn’t like at first, for the rest of the season and had a lot of success. If it’s a complete stranger, I’m not gonna be persuaded as easily. I don’t know you that well, why would I listen to someone I don’t know? Also, if someone I don’t like is talking or asking me to do something, odds are I’m not gonna listen to them or do what they asked. They probably wouldn’t listen to me so why should I listen to them? I know it’s a horrible mentality to have but I just have it :-/
Saying no to certain people is hard but overall I’d say it comes easy to me. If someone comes up to me offering cocaine I'm going to say no for obvious reasons but If someone I care about needs something I’m quick to act even if it disrupts my life or puts me in an uncomfortable situation. Honestly saying no could save me time, stress, and energy but its hard. It also depends on what the person is asking me. I remember going to family events which I absolutely dreaded but I agreed to go because it made my mom happy. When it comes to her there’s not much I wouldn’t do. Even though I find it hard to say no at times I wouldn't do anything that goes against what I believe in. Once I decide something though its hard to change my mind. Its not easy to talk me into something that I dont want to do. If I have already said no it’s almost impossible to change my mind. I always trust my instincts and if I said no it’s for a good reason since I don’t say no often.
ReplyDeleteThroughout many times in my life I have found it very hard to say the word no. I have always desired to either help people with something that I'm interested in doing or because it would help that person out. Obviously if the decision was a really stupid one I can refrain from saying the word yes and I would have no problem with saying the word "no." Since I am a nice person though when people ask me to help them even it doesn't benefit me I will still say the word yes because that's just who I am.
ReplyDeleteThere have been many times in my life where I have found myself agreeing to something I didn't want to. Very recently in fact with all of the gun violence going around and the words of protesters saying how all these "assault rifles" should be banned and forever vanish has gotten me agreeing with some things that I really don't agree with. I believe these guns shouldn't be banned because there are a lot of people who enjoy shooting them for sport and fun including me. It's just unfortunate that sick people get their hands on these guns and use them for death and destruction. It's so easy to get me agreeing with a body of people even if my opinion is different because I don't want people judging me because I have a different opinion about the topic. I just simply shake my head in agreement and keep my own thoughts inside my head to prevent confrontation. I know that my opinions matter so I don't care what other people think so as long as I know what stays true to my heart and my mind than I really don't care about what other people say but I just choose to keep that information locked away.
ReplyDeleteI do find it hard to say no now a days in society where you get judged for not wanting to do something sometimes people will pass you the blunt and you’ll say uhh i’m good and everyone’s so quick to call you pussy when in all reality you just don’t wanna hit the damn blunt. It does indeed depend on the circumstance. If you’re with your friends it won’t matter if you say no. If your with people who you’re trying to impress then you’re going to be more pressured. I’ve agreed to do something i did not want to yes. It’s not easy to talk me into doing something unless i'm like kinda tipsy idk. I don’t get influenced a lot.
I never really find it difficult to say no. The only time I ever have a hard time saying no is to my family. Whenever my family needs something from me I'll always say yes because I know they'll do the same for me. Lately my grandma is going down the rabbit hole and going a little crazy, it's really affecting my mom. I know she is having a hard time so especially with her, if she asks for something, I always say yes.
ReplyDeleteIn any other case I'm not really afraid to speak my mind and say no. If I don't wanna do something I normally just won't do it. I'm never really forced into doing anything I don't want to do which I guess makes me lucky.
To persuade me to do something I didn't wanna do I would probably need to know that something good would come out of it.
Of course. Of course I find it hard to say no to certain people or things. I like to think it is because I am a super empathetic person who tries to please as many people as possible. However I know this is not the case. I am easily persuaded to do fun things at the expense of doing other important stuff. For example, the other day, I had a ton of homework that I needed to do. I came home fully prepared to get into the grind, but of course my friend asked me to play Fortnite with him. I couldn’t just let my man hang, so I dropped what I wanted, no needed to do in order to play with him. I think my subconscious played a huge factor in decisions like that and others. I rather would play Fortnite than do homework, so I was easily convinced. However, I am not easily convinced when it comes to doing something against my personal beliefs. Asked to drink? Hard pass. “Hey man, do you smoke?” Yeet, miss me with that BS, you couldn’t convince me. It’s just not who I am.
ReplyDeleteIt is both hard and very easy to say no to someone. In my personal experiences, saying no to people that you really care about is one of the hardest things to do. When all you want to do is help someone because of how close they are to you, saying no when they request your help is something that does not feel good. I might say no to these people because I have already planned something else, or have something better to do for myself, to better my life. Other than either of those circumstances, I would obviously say yes to these people because there isn’t a reason not to.
ReplyDeleteWhen people that I do not know that well ask me for favors, I would usually say yes. In most cases when they ask for my help, they are in need of some small favor that won’t take me a long time to accomplish. But, when some of the people that are distant to me, that ask me to do strenuous tasks, I say no almost all the time, unless I’m having a good day.
In one occasion, I found myself doing things that now I look back on, I didn’t really want to do. When I tried out for lacrosse, I absolutely hated playing the sport from the beginning. But, I had a lot of friends on the team that wanted me to stay and promised me it would get better. For the next three and a half weeks I went through hell trying to push through to the point I would start enjoying playing. I do not play sports unless I have fun playing the sport. Eventually, I quit, and I am not a quitter so I felt not like myself. Afterwards, I felt so much better being free from the place that cause me so much stress and anxiety, because I just could not develop the skills necessary for the sport. I think I stayed and played the time I was there because of my friends on the team, whenever we were in a huddle or getting water breaks, they made it feel like a family and we had a good time.
It is not easy to talk me into doing anything. Even when teachers or my parents ask me to do things I always complain and talk back, because I don’t like doing something that takes me off track of the task that I have already started. It is easy to “talk me into something” when nothing is going on in my life, because when I’m bored I look for anything to keep my mind from overthinking about life. It is impossible for someone to talk me into something that I know would be bad for my life. I make decisions for myself and don’t let anyone make them for me. If you catch me doing something “bad” or “good” for my life, it was not because someone talked me into doing it, it is because I battled in my head if I should or should not do the activity.
I never really find it hard to say no to people my own age. I only do stuff I feel I actually want to do & the peer pressure thing doesn’t work on me. I’ve had people tell me that I always say no and that’s funny to me, I take that as a compliment because I know people who can never say no because they feel like they’re lame or feel like they’re obligated to do certain things. I’ve had people ask me to drink and smoke like mostly everyone in high school and I’ve never smoked and I had a drink before, but it was accidentally given to me by a family member, not me taking it from a friend. I have personal reasons for not doing either of these things and it’s because it’s apart of the list of things I find bad. I do agree to do small things I don’t want to do because I don’t want whomever asked me to feel some type of way. For example, I hate leaving the house, I love staying in my room by myself and occasionally someone will hit me up and try to make plans and i’ll say yes to make them happy. I can’t ever say no when my parents ask me to do something though. I don’t remember the last time I said no to my mom or dad and I guess that’s out of respect in a way. The only way someone can talk me into doing something is if its something small or it’s something I don’t feel strongly about.
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ReplyDeleteHave you ever found yourself agreeing to something you really didn't want to do? Why do you think you did or didn't?
Under what circumstances is it easy to talk you into something? Under what circumstances is it impossible to do so?
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Sometimes i do find it hard to say no, when it comes to my friends or anybody i care about, i always wanna do as much as i can for everybody. Yes, i have found my self doing things even when i don't wanna do it, this is because i really care or love the person. in the moment i may be annoyed but after its all over with i am happy that i could help. Anybody i truly care about can basically talk me into anything, on the other hand if i don't like you, you cant make me do anything if i know they would not do it for me.
I really never find it hard to say no, only to the people that I truly love like my close friends or my lover. It's hard for me to say no to them because I want to help them in any way possible and I like people to know my loyalty towards them and that they can count on me for anything. I've done multiple things throughout my lifetime that I didn't really want to do but at the end of the day I pleased somebody else and that's all that matters to me. It's very easy to talk me into something because i'm so easy influenced. But, I do know right from wrong and I wouldn't do such a thing that I know for sure will have a serious consequence because every action has it's consequences.
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